When most of us talk about love, we mean romantic love. Issa Rae’s Insecure reminds us that that term applies just as much to our other relationships. At the center of the show are Issa and Molly, two awkward black girls trying to make their way in LA. The two spend much of their time trying to find satisfactory romantic relationships.

Issa starts season one with her boyfriend Lawrence. Unfortunately, Lawrence isn’t motivated to do anything. He’s been unemployed for four years and has refused to look for other jobs. He doesn’t appear to contribute to their relationship. When the tension boils over and they break up, Issa becomes involved with Daniel, an old flame. Lawrence eventually gets his act together, takes on one job, and then gets a job he’s passionate about. Their relationship improves. But the truth ultimately comes out. Just when their relationship is stronger than ever, Lawrence meets Daniel at a party and asks Issa how she knows him. Issa confesses she had an affair. This time, Lawrence breaks things off. At the end of season two, they had a heart to heart about their relationship, and while they both reached a place of understanding, I doubt they will get back together.

While Issa drifts out of a relationship, Molly fights to get in one. But one of two things always happens. Either she comes across as too clingy and drives the guy away or she writes a guy off who doesn’t meet her checklist of requirements. In the end, the best relationship she’s found is arguably with a man in an open marriage–a far cry from where she wants to be relationship-wise. Unless the show surprises us in season three, neither Issa nor Molly looks destined to find the romance she desires.

For me, one of the highlights is when Molly learns that her dad cheated on her mom. Her whole life, she has seen their marriage as the pinnacle of happiness. Here parents always support each other. They have a great rapport. They can finish each other’s sentences. They have history. And they both light up in each other’s presence. To Molly’s mind, this sort of connection is only possible in marriage.

Yet, that is what she has with Issa. The two always support each other, no matter what. When Issa is trying to raise money for her job at “We Got Ya’ll,” Molly contributes and attends a fundraiser. When Issa wrecks her car, Molly is the one to drive her around. They’re able to speak the truth to each other, even when it hurts, and have their friendship remain in tact. Issa tells Molly that all of her failed relationships have the same common denominator: Molly. Molly hates hearing that, of course, but eventually takes Issa’s suggestion to try therapy. They have fights where they scream horrible things at each other, but you never doubt they’ll make up afterwards.

At the end of the day, you always know they’ll be there for each other. You know they’ll sacrifice for each other and be vulnerable with each other. And they (usually) really like each other. That sounds like love to me. So, no matter what happens with their romantic endeavors, it isn’t right to say they’re looking for love. In each other, they already found it.